Love in the time of Tinder
November 12th, 2015
The good old days when courting was a slow practice, all about waiting in front of the phone for a call or a text message are over. Well, anybody who longs for that time is clearly a hopeless nostalgic or he doesn't remember them well.
Love in the time of the landline was great, but life has gone on and the story has changed, get used to it.
Internet and, above all, social media have revolutionized dating strategies, introducing a new flirting language. Who would have thought we were going to express our interest in someone through thumbs up-shaped appreciations on his profile picture? Today lots of relationships actually start this way.
But that's not all, the new frontiers of flirting have given life to new online dating places like the Apps Tinder and Snapchat. If you have lived under a rock until now and you don't know what I'm talking about, I suggest you to catch up with us. Now, we can face our debate: what is love like in the time of Tinder? Is it better or worse than “traditional courting”? Isn't it the real, genuine love? No, it's simply different.
New technologies didn't ruin true love, but they just changed its shapes. Saying that online dating dynamics are worse or less intense than twenty years ago is stupid and close-minded.
We could rather say that the new media changed the way of courting because our demands have changed. In a world in which our basic day is frenetic, the distances we walk are extensive and we spend most of our day sitting in front of a computer, an App like Tinder helps us to satisfy our relationship needs.
Tinder helps to connect us with all the singles within a specific area, thanks to a GPS device. Starting with a simple token of appreciation to another user, if he likes you back, you can start chatting to each other. It's quick and easy just like Snapchat, that allows us, among other things, to send short videos or photos (that are going to self-destruct after reading). Just a quick start to get to know each other.
Today love is not worse than yesterday: it's the same, but we have changed. And if the new social media help us to actually get a date, I don't see the problem. And then, remember, there's always time to send a hand-written letter to the ones we love.